MarK Everett Kelly is a 29-Year Survivor of Rhabdomyosarcoma.
Most people during their lifetime will run into people who always know what to say, but never actually do it. While most of the time, those people don't affect your life, they can be very harmful when you take them seriously.
I refer to those people as the "I'll be praying for you" gang. Let me explain.
When some hear this, they think I am criticizing religion or prayer. I'm not. Many times I have uttered those words as well. I'm not referring to those of you who are sincere with your concern. Sometimes the best you can do for someone is pray for them.
During the last session of our men's group at the church I attend, I brought up this topic. Some were offended at first until I explained my meaning.
One of the worst things you can feel as a person is that you need help, primarily financial. When you can't afford rent or your cable, credit card, electric, heating, water, or phone bill is a few months behind; you feel susceptible and weak.
Most people won't admit they need assistance. Most are too prideful and don't want to appear weak or that they need help. However, when the situation arrives where a brother or sister exposes their needs like that, it needs to be taken seriously.
When you are dealing with cancer, many things will be outside of your control. As a family member, spouse, sibling, or parent, seeing a loved one suffer is one of the worst feelings you will experience. The sentiment is mutual for the patient or survivor.
Education. Be your own advocate!